V'ayra 5785

Misalas Yesharim states Yiras Hisromimus is Awe, not fear. To get to Awe , requires Hachna, understanding there is someone bigger than you. Busha- good shame, knowing He is there so why would I do it. The third ingredient is Kavod- self respect. A gravitas that takes up a physical space, like the Ananei Hakavod .

When davening with enthusiasm three items are needed

1) Hashem is there and you are speaking with him. The hardship is in not seeing Him

2) Realizing He is very very big. Bigger than big. He created infinity, which our words can not encapsulate

3) Realize you are not as big as Him.

If you have step #2, why is step #3 needed. Yira is the formation of understanding who am I and who He is in our relationship.

Our society trains us to think that there is no hierarchy, which is the male attribute of A higher and a lower or a line. Only the circular, which is the female attribute in which all are equals represented by a circle because all the sides of a circle are equal distance from the center. For society to function you need both. A circle concentrically elevating

like a DNA helix. Because living with only male power leads to destruction with the domination of one over all others. Whereas living with only female powers there is no growth (all are equal distance from the center so what

need is there to grow) This path of feminine style of thought is seen in the calling of parents by their first name, teachers are friends and children are EFM, equal family members ,.Who when smashing glass jars in a store cannot be stopped by the parent who must respect their choices. If there is no hierarchy, there is no G-.d , as you and He are the same,(Circle) Then There can be no trust because there is no one bigger than you that will have your back in a crisis. hence the epidemic of fear

To look at this in relationships, the base level is comfort, a chimp mother cleans and feeds her baby. Providing comfort for the chimp. Ice cream can also bring comfort, as can online validation of your thoughts and ideas.

However, if a snake comes, mother chimp runs, when you need something or deny your online friends, you are completely unfriended. Trust is knowing your parents give much more than comfort. In times of danger, or need, they have your back. That is trust. This requires hierarchy- the knowing they have an expertise or strength that you

don’t have and will hold you when you cant. A parent who does not work on themselves towards this, and provides comfort only, the child will not trust them. The parent will hate the child and be jealous of their success. Sometimes they will engender the child to fall and prevent their progress as can be seen in our society.

Without hierarchy, there is no up or down, no good or bad, no truth or lies. There just IS. Whatever feeling I am having in the moment is right. Regardless of whom it hurts just outsuide this imediate second, and then i chnge my mind and am not help accountable for the damage of the switchover. This is the validation promoted by modern psychology. If I feel it, it must be so.(because I am equal to all) Which by definition causes there to be no right or wrong.

This all comes from thinking that there is nothing bigger than yourself. If I watch a short video, I can now explain the choice of medical procedure to the neonatal neurosurgeon. There is nothing to aspire to, you are there.

If Hachna is missing, then so is the good shame that says I cannot do this, The proliferation of evil, lies, stealing and even killing are justified with feel good excuses, of immediate justidfcation. Self-respect and respect for others, dies as well. This is A world

where nothing matters, there is no space held sacrosanct, and there is no action that cannot be justified. Living in a circular world of external validation of a group where good is as long as the group says it is so. This is also at the mercy of strangers who will destroy anyone in the group who tries to riseover anyone else.

Which world do you want to live in? Your choice.

As heard from Harav Ephraim Goldstein